4 Year Blogiversary

This looked way better in person than it does in this picture.

Hello! I forgot what day my blogiversary was (I thought it was on the 26th), so I’m rush writing this the night before. What else is new.

The posts I normally do for my blogiversary are normally focused on me, but I wanted to give back to this wonderful community that has given me so much by hosting a GIVEAWAY!

So here are the rules, disclaimers, etc.:

  1. The prize is a YA book of your choosing (as long as it’s roughly average hardcover price. Please don’t have me buy you a $50 CDN YA book (if those exist). I am a poor university student)
  2. This is open internationally (as long as Book Depository ships to you)
  3. Speaking of Book Depository, I’ll be purchasing your prize using Book Princess Review‘s referral link. Mandy and Sha are wonderful and have been some of my biggest supporters, and I really wanted to give back to them by using their link.
  4. The only requirement is that you comment on this post. That means all other ways to gain entries are optional. If you follow me for the giveaway and then unfollow me right after the giveaway is over, you will be barred from future giveaways run by me. As a note: I post about mental illness a lot on all my platforms. If that is triggering to you in any way, please don’t follow me. Your mental well-being is more important than extra giveaway entries.
  5. There is an extra entry specifically for international (as in non-US) people. As an international reader, I know how frustrating online giveaways can be, but I didn’t want to stop any people from the US from entering. This is just to give some people who might not normally be able to enter giveaways a leg up and is in no way meant as a slight towards people who live in the US.
  6. This giveaway is not affiliated with anyone. I am running it using my own money of my own volition.
  7. I will never share any of the information you give me as a part of this giveaway with anyone. That being said, if you win I will need to know your mailing address in order to get you your prize. Please make sure it is okay for me to know your address for the purpose of this giveaway before entering.
  8. I will update this post once the giveaway has ended with the name of the winner. If that is you, you have 48 to contact me (can be by DM on Twitter (@LoverofBooksblg) or Instagram (@loverofbooksblog), or by email (fortheloverofbooks@gmail.com) to claim your prize.
  9. This giveaway ends on June 30th, 2019 at 12:00 am Eastern Standard Time (EST)

Now you can just click this link to enter. Good Luck!

And thank you to everyone reading this! I never expected too love blogging and this community as much as I do when I started For the Lover of Books at 16 after exams were over. I’ve grown a lot over the last few years, and this blog has grown with me. I’ve met some amazing people,  written countless posts, and gotten to share the books I love with the internet. Thank you for being there with me! Here’s to 4 years of doing whatever I’m doing here.

Edit: Congratulations Rendz, you are the winner of the giveaway! You have 48 hours to claim your prize.

Blogging with Social Anxiety for 3 Years


FLB 3 Year AnniversaryThis is a post that terrifies me to write, so I’m just letting whatever comes out come out. No writing this in Word and deciding not to post it. No going back. I’m just editing it on here and posting it.

Hi. If you’re new here I have social anxiety and depression. As a short disclaimer, while I have discussed the depression with multiple medical professionals, whenever I have said “I think I have social anxiety and depression”, everyone seems to ignore the one that makes it terrify to order food in a restaurant and actually talk to other humans, so that’s fun. I did research of my own years ago when I first figured it out, and everything seemed to pretty much to fit me to a T, so if you’re not here for my self-diagnosis that is 100% okay. I just wanted to put all the information out there. If you’re wondering to what extent it affects me, I am currently sweating and nauseous writing this.

Today is the 3 year anniversary of me starting For the Lover of Books, so I decided what better way to thank you than to make myself sick and depress everyone with emotional baggage. Jokes aside, I do want to talk about how my social anxiety has affected my blogging.

The first thing is how when I first started my blog I couldn’t comment on other blogs or my own. It was terrifying. If you’ve seen me around the internet you’ll know that this has changed, but I do still have the occasional issue with comments. I’ll write out a comment, overthink it for 2 hours, feel nauseous and the familiar prickle of anxiety, and decide not to add my voice to the discussion. If you’ve ever written me a long comment and I’ve done to it is liked it or replied with a simple “thank you” this is probably what happened.

I’m super weird with compliments. You aren’t causing me any trouble if you compliment me, but my brain just kind of short-circuits when I give/ receive them. This is something I really want to get better at, but I’m constantly terrified I will say the wrong thing.

I never blog hop. Another thing I want to get better at (I think I’m going to start with the thread of Canadian bloggers I’ve had saved on Twitter forever but haven’t gotten to yet). I rarely ever follow a person before they follow me, and if I do follow a person before they follow me they either liked or commented on one of my posts first. I’m also terrified of sending friend requests on Goodreads (and everywhere else, but I’m trying to keep this book blogging related). It comes from being afraid people will react negatively to it/ think I’m weird (I’m kind of proving those hypothetical people right with this post, but that’s fine). Yes, the rational part of my brain is well aware this is insane, but I really don’t have good control over my anxiety as of right now.

I think that’s all it affects on here. Now on to the profuse showing of gratitude.

Thank you to everyone who has ever read/liked/commented on a post on For the Lover of Books. Thank you to the 131 people who follow For the Lover of Books at the time of writing this. Thank you for being kind to me and patient with me for 3 years. You welcomed a lonely 16 year old girl from small town Ontario onto your screens 3 years ago, and it meant and means the world to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I don’t know where I would be without this blog and this community. I love this community so much.

And I would love to be friends. Email me (fortheloverofbooks@gmail.com). Friend me on Goodreads. Message me on social media (Twitter:@LoverofBooksblg Instagram:@loverofbooksblog). Do what you have to do to get my attention (with the exclusion of stalking me and finding where I live/ doing anything that will put others in danger, though I’m sure none of you would do that). 1/2 my life is online if you need me.

One last thank you to the people that read all that and made it to the end. Feel free to let me know if this post was TMI (to much information, not The Mortal Instruments)/crossed a line. I’m always open to feedback of any kind.

2 Year Anniversary of For the Lover of Books

It feels completely insane that I have been blogging for 2 years. I technically missed the actually day I started For the Lover of Books (which according to Twitter was June 23rd), but I couldn’t pass up the chance to express my gratitude towards the community that means so much to me.

If I had to describe myself simplistically, I would say I’m a mentally ill Canadian girl who loves to read and write. Reading was how I escaped the bullying I experienced as a child, and for me, there is no feeling like sitting down to write, and losing yourself in your writing.

I distinctly remember reading Kiersten White’s Paranormalcy for school in grade 8 (I read it in a few hours), ordering the next two books, and creating a twitter account so I could follow her. I had always been a reader, but this is where simply staying up late reading ended, and my true love of reading started. I remember the pure joy I felt the first time I got an email from Twitter saying either Alyxandra Harvey (Canadian author I practically worshiped back then) or Kiersten White (I can’t remember which one) liked one of my Tweets. I remember desperately checking tour dates to see if either of them was coming somewhere close enough for me to meet them, and the sinking feeling when I realized I would never meet them. I met Kiersten White last year in a Chapters hours away from where I live.

Catherine Egan, Kiersten White, Marie Lu, and Morgan Rhodes in a Chapters in Brampton, Ontario.

That feeling from when that first author liked me tweet, or when I finally got to meet an author I had waited 4 years to meet, that’s what I feel when blogging. I feel it when I’m proud of a review I wrote (even if I still need to work on a few things and make some of my lower star reviews a little nicer), or when someone likes my post, or when someone followers For the Lover of Books, or when I see someone has read one of my reviews from a different country, and I especially feel that feeling when someone leaves a comment, because maybe I don’t have anything to reply with, but maybe I do. So thank you, to the people who read my posts, to the members of this community who have welcomed me, to the people who have interacted with For the Lover of Books in any way. Your support means the world to me. The fact that some of you have liked reviews that aren’t the kindest they could have been, that you supported something that is so distinctly me when I can’t control my emotions, is something I will never be able to repay. To a girl with depression, it means the world.

So happy (belated) birthday For the Lover of Books, and here’s to many more years to come.

1 Year Anniversary of For the Lover of Books

I started For the Lover of Books in late June 2015 because I was embarrassed of the first blog I had created, but I still wanted to practice writing and share my opinions on the thing that brings me great happiness: books. I was determined to leave Bookteardown (my previous blog) behind me and work even harder on For the Lover of Books (Fun fact: I originally wanted to name my blog For the Love of Books (like the saying “for the love of God”), but it was already taken). I created a Twitter, a now deleted Facebook page (The only likes were my mom and aunt) and a Goodreads (which remains friendless because I’m too socially anxious to actually friend anyone). I posted a few reviews before I got my first follower, and if I remember correctly I nearly cried because the only person who had read Bookteardown’s posts was my dad. My early reviews may not be very good, and even my recent reviews need work, but I like knowing that I have improved a lot in a year. Even after a year, I’m still trying to get better and find a nicer and less cynical way to get my opinions across.

Thank you to everyone who has ever even skimmed a post from For the Lover of Books! Thank you to every single person who has ever left a comment or a like, it means the world to me when you do! And lastly, thank you to all 33 current followers of For the Lover of Books! It means so much to me that you all saw something in For the Lover of Books at one point or another and I am so grateful for the wonderful blogging community. Some people may think 33 people isn’t a lot compared to people who are followed by hundreds or thousands, but just know that 33 is unbelievable to the girl who didn’t think she’d get 1 follower.

Now that my gratitude has been expressed, for my one year anniversary, I thought that I would tell you some book related things about me. I have seen this done before with 25 facts, but I’m just going to list as many as I can.

  1. I live in a small house and share a room with my sister, so I only have one shelf to put my books on (the rest are in cupboards, drawers, and boxes)
  2. I have never fallen in love with a book character (no book boyfriends for me). Normally I just hope that the protagonist ends up with the guy if I think he is a good person.
  3. I don’t eat while reading.
  4. I don’t bring my books out in public anymore (I don’t want them getting dirty)
  5. I learned to read in grade 1 (at age 6 or 7, so 11 or 10 years ago) using a Sandra Boynton book
  6. My dad read all 7 of the Harry Potter books to me and my brother when we were fairly young (I was in grade two when we started the first one I believe). I ended up reading the last book after my dad had finished reading us the series for a book talk for school in grade 5, making Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows the only Harry Potter book I have personally read.
  7. Speaking of Harry Potter, my dad would not let us watch the movies until we finished the books, so when the time came to watch Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone, I was very disappointed when the characters did not look exactly as I had imagined them.
  8. While most people like having maps in books, I prefer having family trees and/or glossaries.
  9. I cannot stand it when authors have characters talk in Yorkshire accents in books (probably because I’m too lazy to try and figure out what they’re saying)
  10. I organize my books from favorite book to least favorite book, so I don’t put books away before they have been read.
  11. I prefer hardcovers to paperbacks, but I despise dust jackets (I used to throw out the dust jackets).
  12. The smell of a new book is one of the best smells.
  13. E. K. Johnston is the first and only author I have ever met.
  14. My Hogwarts house is Hufflepuff according to Pottermore, but I feel like I’m a mix of Hufflepuff and Ravenclaw.

Do you have any of the same/similar bookish facts about you?